“You are not what you’ve done, what you’ve been, how others have taught you, or what has been done to you. Your past and all its hurts are no longer in this reality, unless you allow them to be here to continue to cause hurts, conflicts, and negative cyclical events. You cannot change your past, but you can change your response to it.”
I partially believe this statement. I personally feel that whatever has happened in your past is part of who you are now. Your mistakes, how people treated you or you treated others, and the things you would have done differently…all have an impact on you. They also influence future decisions. Could I have been stronger in certain situations? Absolutely. That is why the second part of the statement has resonance for me. There is nothing you can do to change the past; it’s how you handle it that counts. Dwelling on the past will do nothing to change it…but if you can find something positive from it, you can evolve and become a better, stronger person.
- Self-Consolation (joberlynmanaois.wordpress.com)
- The Power of Forgiveness… (fairygodmuma.wordpress.com)
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“The word is not just a sound or a written symbol. The word is a force; it’s the power you have to express and communicate, to think and thereby to create the events in your life…the word is the most powerful tool you have as a human; it’s the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
“If you spend most of your time focusing on negative things and thinking unhappy thoughts, your brain will release more of the neurotransmitters associated with sadness and less of the ones associated with happiness. Over time, your brain adjusts and not only doesn’t MAKE as many of the ‘happy hormones’ but also loses its ability to RECEIVE the ‘happy hormones’ it does make.
This is the scientific basis for ‘We become what we think about most of the time.’ Why? Because thinking stimulates neurotransmitters which then create new receptors!”
Cover of No Country for Old Men
“I think by the time you’re grown up you’re as happy as you’re goin’ to be. You’ll have good times and bad times, but in the end you’ll be about as happy as you was before. Or as unhappy. I’ve knowed people that just never did get the hang of it.” ~ Cormac McCarthy, No Country for Old Men.
….note the meaning, not the grammar
“Happiness is a BY-PRODUCT of living a life of meaning. When we pursue happiness directly, in terms of trying to buy things, gain love, engage in behaviors that make us happy – we fail. Instead, we must become happy by doing things that have personal meaning for us.”
- In search of happiness (slideshare.net)
- Should We Pursue Happiness? (theunemployedphilosophersblog.wordpress.com)
While I have been slacking on the posts, I truly have been reading a bit. Work has just been insane lately and it’s all I can muster to get the kids to bed and vege out in front of the TV. I’m sure the advent of new fall episodes isn’t helping matters…I must say I’ve been getting sucked in by quite a few series.
In the meantime, while I’m trying to finish this book, I’ll be posting several posts about happiness, and the lack there of, to fill the gaps. This book is not lacking in quotes!
“Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it” ~ Groucho Marx
I just saw The Intouchables yesterday and absolutely LOVED it. I’m not usually one to sit through movies with subtitles, but I did not want this movie to end. It’s based on a true story of a friendship between a quadriplegic millionaire (Francois Cluzet) and his street smart ex-con caretaker (Omar Sy aka Driss). Driss and Francois meet when Omar is applying for a job as Francois’s caretaker, just so he can get credit for unemployment. Francois is attracted to his honesty and lack of pity and offers him the job.
Some might liken it to “Driving Miss Daisy” but I found it to be much more fulfilling. I know there are so many movies out there about “unlikely friendships”, but I was so drawn to this story. I loved their relationship. Whereas many might find the storyline depressing, I found it uplifting and a wonderful balance between pulling at my heartstrings and making me laugh out loud. Driss is so refreshingly blunt, and it’s obvious that is what Francois needs.
One of my favorite scenes was when Driss went to an opera for the first time…dressed in jeans to boot. His reaction was priceless and his laughter infectious.
I don’t feel that the movie perpetuated stereotypes as many others have written. I found the differences between their personalities to be the backbone of the movie. They each fulfilled something that was missing in their counterpart. They built each other up and didn’t take advantage of weaknesses. It was a genuine friendship.
I highly recommend this movie! I can’t wait to see it again.